Values we live by

The teaching that I do talks about our personal values. This is the place that most disagreements start. To be a personal values, one must be :
-freely chosen from alternative points of view.
-acted upon regularly so that they fulfill our need or expectation.
-be seen by others as important to us (a value).
-others will react or respond to it as our value.
-this will encourage us to keep doing it.
We do what we believe is right, good, and important. In all our lives from the kind of bread and butter we eat, to how we make our beds, to what we wear, to how we raise our kids, we have personal values. When your values and my values clash there is disagreement. The only way to solve this is to have understanding and openness about values. There are not many places where we can't come into an understanding of each other if we are open to discuss our values. Many times our values are the same but how we carry them out may differ. When ideals are broken down into values and beliefs rather than how they are carried out, we get to the core of who we are as people. From there we choose ways of living. Can we get back to basis to come together??